What do Princess Diana and NFL star Greg Hardy have in common? One is a woman, and the other is a man. One is white, and the other black. One was a kind, caring, gentle individual, and the other is a hard-hitting defensive lineman with a bad temper. Yep, they’re about as different as two people can get. At the same time, they’re more similar than you might imagine. Our BTInsiders probably know where we’re going with this, and believe us when we tell you it was perhaps as much a shock for us to find out as it will be for you now reading this. Both are the same Brain Type. Both are #3 FEALs, believe it or not.
As you adjust to the shock, consider how the high-energy #3 loves to play team defense, regardless the sport. Even in life, they are vigilant to always defend the institution, including the family. On the basketball court, it’s not too difficult to view them utilizing their body strength and balance. On the football field, Hardy does the same thing, keeping the enemy at bay with his dominant Animate emotion, which can include aggression especially when testosterone (or certain ingested substances) is high. All to say, Hardy plays the roll of a bad boy, but compared to the #5 FEIR or #6 BEIR, he ain’t no bad boy. Instead, he usually lets his mouth do the talking (ala Rasheed Wallace). In recent times he’s “made headlines when he commented on Tom Brady’s wife” and “also caused a stir with an inappropriate tweet about the Sept. 11 attacks during this year’s draft.”
Yet, in 2014, a police report was filed by a woman who “describes a night of drinking and doing cocaine at several bars before returning to Hardy’s apartment with the player, who snapped at some point. When the woman tried to defend herself, Hardy allegedly beat her, threw her into a bathtub and then slammed her onto the couch.” Photos were recently released showing horrible bruises all over the body of the young woman. Hardy was arrested, and last year convicted of assault in a bench trial, but the charges were dismissed on appeal.
All to say, yes, even the friendly #3 can turn violent (as can all other BTs), though that violence would rarely be premeditated. Instead, Hardy “snapped,” and after a of night drinking on the town, he clearly was acting crazily “in-the-moment.” In a real sense, he himself was afterwards probably shocked at what he did, though the deed is still obviously nearly unforgivable. In the eyes of one famous quarterback, however, it’s not nearly unforgivable, but simply unforgivable. We know what he did, said Roger Staubach (#15 FCIL) recently. I’ve got a wife and four daughters and I’ve got 12 granddaughters. I would go ballistic if anybody touched any of our daughters or granddaughters in a harmful way. I’m not that forgiving for anybody that commits domestic violence.
Another rare “defensive” FEAL we know of in football history was Sean Jones, who found success at defensive-end playing for the Los Angeles Raiders, Houston Oilers, and the Green Bay Packers. He even went to the Pro Bowl after the 1993 season. Sean’s off-field behavior was typical #3, not Hardy’s aberration.
In the end, the question is, will Greg Hardy find himself in a similar situation again? He easily could, if he doesn’t develop a new value system. Still, as Left brain dominant, he will be more apt to think twice, not pulling the trigger so quickly (assuming his brain isn’t inebriated with alcohol). Unless you really get a lot of help, you just don’t overcome it, again says Staubach. You’ve got to get help. It’s not just, Hey, I did this, it won’t happen again. It happens again. . . . It’s a worrisome deal when someone hits a woman. Hopefully that someone is getting help to never do it again.
Though the Hardy debacle has been utterly detestable, it can provide us all a needed probing of our individual values and ethics, and an excellent test of our BT skills and knowledge.
Written by: Staff